For now, take time for you
The Art of Rest & Relaxation - Week 2
You have permission to rest. You are not responsible for fixing everything that is broken. You do not have to try and make everyone happy. For now, take time for you. It's time to replenish. Dr. Rex
Giving yourself permission is very powerful - and in fact really easy. We often tend to look to others to find out what's 'right' instead of finding the courage to look inside and find out what truly is right for ourselves. We don't need anyone else's permission to do anything really. It is so freeing to give ourselves permission to do what we feel is right for us.
And often that might start with the permission to stop and pause, to rest and relax, to take time out - so we can align ourselves with ourself again. Pause as long as you need until you feel like yourself again - and not driven by the seemingly endless demands of the outside world.
You are in control of your own world - in fact no one else is - if you still believe so, please wake up to the fact that it is an illusion. Get real with yourself and take control of your life. How about starting with a mini retreat? Give yourself permission to rest and relax - whenever you feel you need it! How empowering and uplifting that can feel is the reward of doing so.
Multiple New York Times best-selling author Dr. Christiane Northrup has put together lists with tips for how to give ourselves permission:
Number 1 on her lists is to "Turn your super traits on yourself." Dr. Northrup says "If you struggle with giving yourself permission, you probably have a super trait that results in you putting others first just because you’re so darn good at making things work for them. ...maybe you are super responsible and take care of everyone’s needs at work and home before you take care of yourself and your own needs. This is at the heart of burnout. The best thing you can do is give yourself permission to apply that super trait to yourself and give yourself a permission slip to prioritize self-care."
The list continues with "Learn to trust yourself. Let go of your need for approval. Feel your emotions. Love and cherish yourself. Stop saying 'I have to.'" and "Practice permission daily."
You might also want to try meditation or rediscover prayer for yourself and call for guidance in a spiritual way.
Celebrate every time you listen to your intuition or do something that helps you become happier, stronger, and healthier. Dr. Christiane Northrup
Here are some options to choose from for giving yourself permission for self care - please choose one for today:
* Get quality sleep and go to bed an hour or 2 earlier than normal or take an extra nap during the day
* Prioritize time with yourself. Take 15-20 minutes per day just for yourself to do something that supports your well-being.
* Try a daily energy cleanse. Invent something for yourself to turn negative energy into positive energy - or do a gratitude ritual, find 3 things you are grateful for today!
* Listen to music - music is healing.
* Set boundaries and don't compromise.
* Focus on something other than your relationship for a while and feel how uplifting that could be.
* Express righteous anger if necessary - don't bottle up or suppress your feelings.
And most importantly: "Love yourself. Your life’s purpose is to take care of yourself. It’s about self-empathy. Take some time every day to honor your feelings and embrace your sensitivities. Recognize that you can be vulnerable and strong at the same time. Celebrate every time you listen to your intuition or do something that helps you become happier, stronger, and healthier. ...when you live up to your full potential, you actually transform the lives of others."
Please take 10 deep, slow, long, smooth and even breath while saying to yourself "Today I give myself permission to... and fill in what you have chosen to give yourself permission for today!
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