How to shine, sparkle, shimmer
Exploring Energy - Week 8
Today I will shine! Lynda Field
Today we try to shed some light on "shining vs selfishness" and how to distinguish illumination from self-absorption, which is to say that these are not criteria for the purpose of judging others, but becoming curious about our own motifs and intentions, and creating awareness through self-investigation.
We commonly use the term "You are glowing" when we notice a certain shine about someone - or we say "he/she was radiant" for example at a wedding or another special occasion. How about not needing a special occasion to shine? What makes it difficult to shine in everyday life?
Esther Hicks explains: "So many people need you to behave in a certain way for them to feel good. They condemn you for your selfishness. 'How dare you be so selfish as to follow what makes you feel good? You should follow what makes us feel good.' At an early age, you were convinced that you weren’t smart enough to know and that somebody else should make the decisions…"
She continues: "You could not live in this culture during the times of your life without getting a huge amount of information relative to that, just in the way people respond to the things you do and say." And she adds: "There is not something you’re supposed to do. There’s not something that you should do. There is only that which you are inspired to do. And how do you get inspired...? It’s the life experience that gives you the idea of the desire, and then as you focus upon the desire, the energy flows."
This is what not only will lighten up your life, but automatically will do so for others as well - they will be encouraged by your example! It is serving you as it is serving others at the same time - this creates a natural balance! It is a win-win situation and a new quality of life can grow from there. This balance becomes impossible when we are trying to please others. Imbalance is the natural consequence and exhaustion usually happens for the one who is trying to please, fix, make right, etc. It often results in a distorted way of fulfillment when we are sacrificing our own wants and needs for the approval of others. It also paves the way for selfishness, self-absorption, and entitlement on the part of the receivers of such pleasing behaviour while the givers are depleting themselves more and more.
Esther Hicks: "There is not something you’re supposed to do. There’s not something that you should do. There is only that which you are inspired to do. And how do you get inspired...?"
Claiming our freedom to shine with what makes us happy is such a freeing move and it can be done in small steps, day by day, making time and space for enjoying life in a healthy way. Making this a priority each day will illuminate our lives and make us shine. This shine comes from within - and that is what makes all the difference because it is not dependent on outer appearance, circumstances, or how others behave.
'Today I will shine' is a commitment you can make to yourself to make the most of your life, savour what excites you, and every day find something that illuminates your path. Your heart is your best companion in this search - it just knows. As Buddha said: "The mind knows no answers. The heart knows no questions."
Meditation is a wonderful and magical way to open the doors to your intuition too and let inspiration flow in abundantly. As Rumi puts it: "The quieter you become, the more you are able to hear." And that points to the information we receive when we do look inwardly. It is the direct path to inspired action - with inspiration shining a light on what to do next. This is the ultimate fun because it makes us feel so in tune with life and the whole.
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